Watching Ezra Klein interview Pema Chodron and he highlights a great point

In the eastern Buddhist non dual tradition there is a focus on dissolving good vs bad experience. Experience is experience. The act of preferring some mode of experience over another causes suffering (The Second Arrow)

In the same sentence a guru will then explain that we should not resist experience, that contraction is a problem to experience the present, and while they may not say it directly, it is clear as day there is a preference of experience. There is a specific orientation they express

I think Pema gets quite defensive when this is brought up and quick to agree to it on the surface and says “you have to be okay with paradoxes”. I thought she had thoughtful answers for basically everything else and her tone was open and curious. Where here it seemed frantic

I’d like to find a thinker who addresses this well. The best I can do is say “the teaching is not one and you meet a student where they are”